Not all parents, influencing children, bring them up. To educate is to instill useful skills that transform a child into a person. To educate, you need to be in a reasonable and conscious state, but how often do we stay in this state? To be honest, most parents will answer: “No!”. When parents, that is, just young people and girls, live in their usual way, that is, without thinking, being in an unconscious state, they do not
raise children, they just live next to them and just somehow relate to them. How? Differently…
A large number of parents gave birth, because “it happened”, and now they are raising, because “where are you going to go, it still yells,” and “so that I have less trouble, I will have to educate him.” Most parents raise children so that they are less bothered in life. They do not like children, they want less trouble for themselves, they take care of themselves and this is not upbringing, this is protection from children. Continue reading
I watched the picture: a boy of about 7-8 jumps into the pool on the heads of the passing ladies. Mom sits nearby and is very happy about this behavior of the child. First, the ladies express displeasure, barely having time to dodge the thirty-kilogram carcass. Mother is having fun. “The Onion Foal,” she explains the actions of the juvenile bully.
On the fifth or sixth jump with a “bomb”, a weighty kid still hits the target – as if with his feet in the
brain of a blond girl. The blonde went under water, but quickly surfaced and yelled at the entire pool. If you remove her obscene words, you would think that she did not say anything. I understand her emotions. Imagine a weight of 30 kilograms falling on your head. Continue reading
How to raise a girl? The question is important and not simple. In the upbringing of the girl there are two lines: the general line and the special line. The general line does not distinguish whether you are raising a boy or a girl: in any case, there are things in common, namely the upbringing of a healthy and developed child, a harmonious and thinking person. But this article is about a special line in education, namely, what special needs to be known and taken intoaccount when raising a girl as a future woman, as a future wife and mother. If this is important to you, I invite you to think about it together.Health and Physical Development
Since girls are often brought up by mothers, they feel sorry for girls, and this is the main mistake. Smart mothers Continue reading
Women practice only persuasion and, to the last, avoid formulating a clear and precise requirement. Even if she dictate the text of the demand, only unhappy eyes can be seen in response, followed by a refusal: “No, I can’t say that!” Once, in the company of young mothers, I asked to play a situation when my daughter did not get up in the morning, and specifically asked to speak with her harder, demanding … Here is a recording of a conversation where one mother played her daughter and the other raised her:- How hard it is to wake up in the morning, how hard it is! Well, I’d sleep for at least 10 more minutes!
– Lena, rise!
– Well, another 5 minutes! Let’s count to five and I’ll get up.
– Rise! The handle rises, the leg rises.
– It’s so cool here … No legs, I’m already cold … I’ll hide again now, and then I will get up.
– Very cool. I’ll hide again and then get up. Continue reading
Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment? Of course, it is possible, but this path is difficult, requiring experience, strength and endurance. It is definitely impossible to rely on one unconditional love here. According to observations, good parents punish the child seriously only once or twice in life, somewhere at the age of three to four years, when the child tries the parents for strength. If this battle is won, then a good life and mutual understanding are again established, only
occasionally alternating rather with symbolic punishments. Once parents use the warning “One! Two! Three!”, Once a timeout without warning, sometimes they have to deprive something for the time of childish mischief – but all these educational measures live somewhere on the periphery of the relationship between parents and children, and in the center there is another: lively and warm communication, discussion of common topics, help with studies, joint leisure, sports … Continue reading