Smart family rituals: what brings us together and strengthens our relationship
Contact between parents and children is a joy, convenience and a guarantee of preventing conflicts and misunderstandings. How to keep it from infancy for many years? Is it possible to…

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Slow baby: recommendations for parents
Some children do everything very slowly. Is this good or bad? The good thing is that usually such children are distinguished by thoroughness and accuracy. If he did, he did,…

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Typology of the personality of the child
   Each child is unique, each different from the others. Nevertheless, some children are much more alike than others. They prefer the same games, they have similar hobbies, a similar…

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At first

Live with children or raise children?

Not all parents, influencing children, bring them up. To educate is to instill useful skills that transform a child into a person. To educate, you need to be in a reasonable and conscious state, but how often do we stay in this state? To be honest, most parents will answer: “No!”. When parents, that is, just young people and girls, live in their usual way, that is, without thinking, being in an unconscious state, they do not
raise children, they just live next to them and just somehow relate to them. How? Differently…

A large number of parents gave birth, because “it happened”, and now they are raising, because “where are you going to go, it still yells,” and “so that I have less trouble, I will have to educate him.” Most parents raise children so that they are less bothered in life. They do not like children, they want less trouble for themselves, they take care of themselves and this is not upbringing, this is protection from children. Continue reading

The child does not want to get up in the morning

Women practice only persuasion and, to the last, avoid formulating a clear and precise requirement. Even if she dictate the text of the demand, only unhappy eyes can be seen in response, followed by a refusal: “No, I can’t say that!” Once, in the company of young mothers, I asked to play a situation when my daughter did not get up in the morning, and specifically asked to speak with her harder, demanding … Here is a recording of a conversation where one mother played her daughter and the other raised her:- How hard it is to wake up in the morning, how hard it is! Well, I’d sleep for at least 10 more minutes!
– Lena, rise!
– Well, another 5 minutes! Let’s count to five and I’ll get up.
– Rise! The handle rises, the leg rises.
– It’s so cool here … No legs, I’m already cold … I’ll hide again now, and then I will get up.
– Rise!
– Very cool. I’ll hide again and then get up. Continue reading

Interruption in communication with the child: a soothing timeout

Sometimes children do not obey us, and they have to be punished. A timeout is one of the humane options for punishment; in reality, it is interruption of contact with a child for educational purposes. There are many options for a timeout, but usually, when punishing in this style, you leave the child alone for a short period of time, stop communicating with him yourself or deprive him of communication with those with whom he had fun.
Sometimes it sounds like a punishment to a child, sometimes like a help: to give him the opportunity to calm down.

It seems to many that a timeout is necessary to put the child in a corner and so that he does not even turn around! No, it is not. The option “quiet chair” for a normal child is much more understandable and Continue reading

Punishment warning: consider "One! Two! Three!"
When a child behaves badly, there is no task to punish him: there is a task to stop his problematic behavior (and in a good way, to attract him to…

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Home schooling: pros and cons
From the editorial board of Psychologist Dear colleagues! Friends and parents! The issue of home schooling is an important and controversial one. He has many ardent supporters and as many…

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What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There…

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Breaking up a relationship as a way to overcome a conflict with a child
Then and just then - a “two-step technique” from the yard of my childhood. - The situation is at an impasse! - you acknowledge and declare. - I did this…

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