What if the child does not hear me?
My middle son, Sasha, is 6 years old. He is a very smart and developed boy. He likes to spin around me, help, do something together. At the same time,…

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Since my friend is doing better, I will not!
One day, my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a…

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Punishment warning: consider "One! Two! Three!"
When a child behaves badly, there is no task to punish him: there is a task to stop his problematic behavior (and in a good way, to attract him to…

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Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment?

Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment? Of course, it is possible, but this path is difficult, requiring experience, strength and endurance. It is definitely impossible to rely on one unconditional love here. According to observations, good parents punish the child seriously only once or twice in life, somewhere at the age of three to four years, when the child tries the parents for strength. If this battle is won, then a good life and mutual understanding are again established, only
occasionally alternating rather with symbolic punishments. Once parents use the warning “One! Two! Three!”, Once a timeout without warning, sometimes they have to deprive something for the time of childish mischief – but all these educational measures live somewhere on the periphery of the relationship between parents and children, and in the center there is another: lively and warm communication, discussion of common topics, help with studies, joint leisure, sports … Continue reading

I don’t want to punish. What could be instead of punishment?

Normal parents do not like to punish their own children. Somehow stupid: I dreamed about children, I wanted to love, but here I just do what I swear and punish. The question arises: the child is not ugly or is there something to fix in me? Answer: even if “the child is not ugly” (this also happens), you need to start with yourself. So, if the child is not an angel and deserves punishment regularly, what can be in the arsenal of the parent, except for
punishment?

First: you can talk with children
Children, especially when they are very upset, do not always understand the conversation in a good way, but, on the other hand, if they are only punished and not talked to, they will never understand normal conversations. No matter how angry you are at the child, no matter how unusual (suddenly!) It is for you, you need to talk with the children! Normal relations with people, relationships without screaming and cursing, children learn in their family. Story: Continue reading

Children’s tantrums: what to do with them?

Children sometimes throw tantrums: they fall to the floor, bang their hands and feet, destroy everything around. Where does this come from and what to do about it?

It is sometimes said that the hysteria of children is always a reaction to an adult, an answer to the fact that there is something terribly wrong in the relationship between an adult and a child. This is not entirely true, it is some exaggeration of the role of an adult.
A child is a creature not only reacting, not responding to one or another, correct or not, adult behavior. Thank God, children are very active, leading their game and policies towards adults.  Continue reading

Since my friend is doing better, I will not!
One day, my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a…

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Typology of the personality of the child
   Each child is unique, each different from the others. Nevertheless, some children are much more alike than others. They prefer the same games, they have similar hobbies, a similar…

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Japanese school
The period of “permissiveness” in a baby lasts only up to 5 years. Until this age, the Japanese treat a child “like a king”, from 5 to 15 years old…

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Raising a boy
Boys and girls are different initially. Since childhood, girls prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. You can, of…

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