Interruption in communication with the child: a soothing timeout
Sometimes children do not obey us, and they have to be punished. A timeout is one of the humane options for punishment; in reality, it is interruption of contact with…

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I don’t want to punish. What could be instead of punishment?
Normal parents do not like to punish their own children. Somehow stupid: I dreamed about children, I wanted to love, but here I just do what I swear and punish.…

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How to love your teenager
Foreword This is a very serious book, but helping teenagers in the transitional period of their lives is also a serious and difficult task, especially in our time. In his…

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Vyacheslav Gorelov

Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment?

Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment? Of course, it is possible, but this path is difficult, requiring experience, strength and endurance. It is definitely impossible to rely on one unconditional love here. According to observations, good parents punish the child seriously only once or twice in life, somewhere at the age of three to four years, when the child tries the parents for strength. If this battle is won, then a good life and mutual understanding are again established, only
occasionally alternating rather with symbolic punishments. Once parents use the warning “One! Two! Three!”, Once a timeout without warning, sometimes they have to deprive something for the time of childish mischief – but all these educational measures live somewhere on the periphery of the relationship between parents and children, and in the center there is another: lively and warm communication, discussion of common topics, help with studies, joint leisure, sports … Continue reading

How a businessman created the “Farmers School” for orphans

Vyacheslav Gorelov, a large father and teacher, created the “Farmers School” for orphans. “Why do I want to start with statistics? The numbers are scary, just scary. Just think – today in Russia there are about 950 thousand orphans. Every year about 100-130 thousand of these guys appear in our country. ”

Every year, 15 thousand graduates leave the walls of orphanages. And after graduation only 10% of them join the society. No more than 7% go to universities, 70% go to vocational schools, and 20% never study at all. 85 thousand orphans do not have fixed housing. The numbers are shocking, and the Continue reading

Children's tantrums: what to do with them?
Children sometimes throw tantrums: they fall to the floor, bang their hands and feet, destroy everything around. Where does this come from and what to do about it? It is…

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Rules of communication, or a waterfall of kindness
It often happens that we, adults, talk about good deeds, teach children to communicate with each other correctly. At the same time, children are well introduced into the conversation, they…

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Persuasion is a waste of time
Marina, my wife and I, go to the park, and there is a stall from the church where they sell all kinds of prayed buns, etc. The tea is good…

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Bravo my dear
“It’s not you who decides where we are going. Parents decide, ”the French are strict in raising their children. The authority of the elders is unshakable. The child is not…

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