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Breaking up a relationship as a way to overcome a conflict with a child
Then and just then - a “two-step technique” from the yard of my childhood. - The situation is at an impasse! - you acknowledge and declare. - I did this…

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Punishment warning: consider "One! Two! Three!"
When a child behaves badly, there is no task to punish him: there is a task to stop his problematic behavior (and in a good way, to attract him to…

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Fear of water, or How to not be afraid to swim
It is easiest for children to learn to swim when they play catch-up next to each other. Catching up on the water, when you need to swim away from the…

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I don’t want to punish. What could be instead of punishment?

Normal parents do not like to punish their own children. Somehow stupid: I dreamed about children, I wanted to love, but here I just do what I swear and punish. The question arises: the child is not ugly or is there something to fix in me? Answer: even if “the child is not ugly” (this also happens), you need to start with yourself. So, if the child is not an angel and deserves punishment regularly, what can be in the arsenal of the parent, except for
punishment?

First: you can talk with children
Children, especially when they are very upset, do not always understand the conversation in a good way, but, on the other hand, if they are only punished and not talked to, they will never understand normal conversations. No matter how angry you are at the child, no matter how unusual (suddenly!) It is for you, you need to talk with the children! Normal relations with people, relationships without screaming and cursing, children learn in their family. Story: Continue reading

Punishment warning: consider “One! Two! Three!”

When a child behaves badly, there is no task to punish him: there is a task to stop his problematic behavior (and in a good way, to attract him to something good, funny and useful). So, if the situation with the child is not yet completely running, then the simplest option is to warn the child that if he doesn’t stop the disgrace, he will be punished in a manner known to him. When the Continue reading

Interruption in communication with the child: a soothing timeout

Sometimes children do not obey us, and they have to be punished. A timeout is one of the humane options for punishment; in reality, it is interruption of contact with a child for educational purposes. There are many options for a timeout, but usually, when punishing in this style, you leave the child alone for a short period of time, stop communicating with him yourself or deprive him of communication with those with whom he had fun.
Sometimes it sounds like a punishment to a child, sometimes like a help: to give him the opportunity to calm down.

It seems to many that a timeout is necessary to put the child in a corner and so that he does not even turn around! No, it is not. The option “quiet chair” for a normal child is much more understandable and Continue reading

Preschoolers: Developing Independence

I began to accustom my daughter to independent actions quite early. From primitive cooking yourself breakfast or dinner. If she said that she wanted to eat, then sometimes I answered her: “If you want, eat! Food in the refrigerator. ” When the daughter was still small, she herself went to the kitchen, took out ready-made food from the refrigerator, warmed up and ate. Of course, everything is under my supervision, but on my own. And when she became older, she began to cook herself.

– Mom, I really want fried potatoes.

“Yes, me too, daughter.” Fire us all, please.

Then she periodically ran in and asked what and how to do. Sometimes I went out into the kitchen to make the fire smaller so that the potatoes would not burn at all. And when her daughter cooked herself, Continue reading

How to teach children to respond to trouble in an adult way?

Unpleasant events also happen in children: they fell, lost, hurt, broke … How important it is in such situations to timely translate the child’s behavior in a positive and constructive way! It is important to understand that the reaction of children is not primarily determined by the situation itself, but by a model of behavior from adults. If adults themselves in such cases swear, get upset, and worry, the children begin to repeat after them.
Our guest is a young mother with a two-year-old baby. The child jumps on the couch, but falls and
hits. He cries, his mother tells him: “Wow, what a bad sofa! Why did you hit our Pasha? We will beat you for it!” – and the sofa knocks, inviting Pasha to this. Pasha willingly joins. Now he knows what to do when he is ill. To feel better at heart, you need to start to beat … This witty hint to the child gives the mother.

Child experiences are simply a bad habit that they have adopted from adults. Smart and funny parents can very well teach their children not to cry or get upset in trouble, but to react in an adult way: in a positive and constructive way. Continue reading

Preschoolers: Developing Independence
I began to accustom my daughter to independent actions quite early. From primitive cooking yourself breakfast or dinner. If she said that she wanted to eat, then sometimes I answered…

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Live with children or raise children?
Not all parents, influencing children, bring them up. To educate is to instill useful skills that transform a child into a person. To educate, you need to be in a…

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Slow baby: recommendations for parents
Some children do everything very slowly. Is this good or bad? The good thing is that usually such children are distinguished by thoroughness and accuracy. If he did, he did,…

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When a child lies to you
There are children who are inclined to lie, and there are children who are not inclined to lie. It seems that in many ways they are born like this: it…

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