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The period of “permissiveness” in a baby lasts only up to 5 years. Until this age, the Japanese treat a child “like a king”, from 5 to 15 years old “like a slave,” and after 15 they treat “like an equal.” It is believed that a fifteen-year-old teenager is already an adult who clearly knows his duties and impeccably obeys the rules. How is this achieved?

This is done primarily with the help of the Japanese school. Having become a schoolboy, a former kid falls into a very strict system of rules and restrictions that clearly prescribe what to do in a given situation. It’s impossible not to obey them, because everyone does it, and to do it differently means to “lose face”, to be out of the group. “Everything has its place” is one of the basic principles of the Japanese worldview. And children learn it from a very young age.

An important function has been entrusted to the elementary school of Japan: to help the child, who until recently has been selfishly living “like a king,” learn to follow all the rules and live for the sake of the group. That is why most of the time in primary education is devoted not so much to mastering the sciences as to initiation into etiquette. Toddlers are taught how to behave in certain situations, what can and should be said and done, and what cannot.

A school for a Japanese child is the second family in the literal sense of the word, for each first-grader is taught that all his classmates are friends, so you can’t fight and swear. “Will you hit a friend?” In order to increase the feeling of the elbow, countless competitions are held all the time, where the team wins. Everyone learns to contribute to their group, to live not for their own interests, but for the interests of the pack. There should be no competition within the flock itself, otherwise it will destroy its unity and competitiveness among similar flocks.

All classes are divided into groups, within which there are leaders and outsiders. At the same time, the leader takes care of his comrades and is obliged to answer for them and help them. In turn, the remaining members of the group in every way serve the leader. A curator, a sixth grade student, is assigned to each first-grader, thereby raising respect for the elders in the younger, and responsibility for the younger in the older.

Every year, students of all classes are shuffled from parallel to parallel. Typically, each student writes on the paper three names of those with whom he would like to be in the same class, and three names of those with whom he would not want. But the administration does not promise that it will be able to fulfill all the requirements. As a result, each year, the student, as it were, gets into a new team, where there are old friends and new ones. So the Japanese instill a sense of unity among the kids: the guys learn to get along with everyone.

In Japan, do not compare children with each other. The educator will never celebrate the best and scold the worst, will not tell parents that their child draws poorly or runs best. It is not customary to single out someone. There is no competition even in sporting events – friendship wins or, in extreme cases, one of the teams. “Do not stand out” is one of the principles of Japanese life.

Unlike the mentality of the West, where the individualism and value of each individual personality is cultivated, the Japanese mentality is flavored with collectivism, when everything you do is important, first of all, for everyone around you and when the “pack” is always more significant than a single individual. So, if the class is noisy in the lesson, the Japanese teacher pacifies the tricks with the phrase: “You are interfering with the study of the neighboring class.” That is enough. This strange behavior is due to the historical development of Japan. Forced to live in isolation for a long time, the country has developed a mentality directed inward. Those. if in the west each person competes with each other, then here each person seems to be working for a “cave”, i.e. there is an important thought in his self-consciousness: “My prosperity depends on the prosperity of my country, therefore, I must first of all work for the country.”

The main task of Japanese pedagogy is to educate a person who knows how to work together in a team. The flip side of this is “ijime” (a concept close to our army “hazing”). If one of the schoolchildren expresses an opinion different from that of the majority, he becomes an object of ridicule or even hatred. A non-standard student is poisoned, often beaten.

In the Land of the Rising Sun, all sorts of instructions that can be found everywhere are very popular: in the subway, in shops, in the waste disposal site and in any other public places. Each situation in the tablets is written down to the smallest detail. For example, in Japanese schools you can find a tablet with instructions on how to behave to everyone who enters the teacher’s:

For students included in the teacher: Instruction

Gently knock on the door two or three times.
After receiving permission from the teacher, enter, apologize.
Summarize the point.
Having finished the conversation, apologize.
Exit, gently closing the door behind you.
Standard is a very important part of training. Everyone should think according to a single standard, the same way.

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