How to love your teenager
This is a very serious book, but helping teenagers in the transitional period of their lives is also a serious and difficult task, especially in our time. In his book, the author considers the real difficulties that parents face today.
We, adults, were not taught to be parents, therefore, the upbringing of adolescents usually happens by itself. It seems that even “successes” come somehow suddenly, by accident.
This book is able to show parents the path that will lead to success.
The author of the book, Dr. Campbell, writes emotionally, but very readily, about teenage depression and the most common ways they express their annoyance. It makes us think about whether we, parents, really give our children “unconditional love”, whether we devote enough time and attention to them. Everything that the author writes about is permeated with the spirit of a Christian understanding of the problem. But at the same time, he does not seek to give accurate answers, but directs us to search for real ways to create deep relations between parents and children in a difficult teenage period.
This book is especially attracted to the honesty with which the author writes not only about the basic principles of education, but also about how they were embodied in his own family life. He does not shy away from real problems, but, on the contrary, offers ways to solve them, using his own successes and failures as examples. The purpose of this book is not to condemn us for mistakes, but to help us see and correct them. Throughout the book passes the idea that having a child is both great joy and great responsibility.
Dr. Campbell writes as a psychiatrist, but his language is almost devoid of professional terms and is understandable. We would recommend that you read this book before your children become teenagers. This is a really useful book, and you will want to reread it more than once when you and your children will live through a difficult teenage period.
Roy and Fiona Castle
Raising a teenager is not an easy task, and today the majority of parents, and the number of such parents is increasing from year to year, faces enormous difficulties. The number of suicides among adolescents has increased so much that it is now the second most important cause of death for people aged 14 to 20 years. In the past few years, the rate of juvenile delinquency, child pregnancy, drug addiction and sexually transmitted diseases has increased tremendously. Feeling of despair takes hold of hearts more and more.
What is the matter? The reason for this situation is the unpreparedness of parents, they do not have a clear idea of how to treat their teenagers. Most parents misunderstand what adolescence is and what they should expect from their children at this time.
Although almost all parents really love their children, nevertheless they do not know how to express this love so that adolescents feel that they are loved and understood. But those who truly want to give their teens the love they need so much can learn this.
I found that the parents who applied the methods proposed in this book have achieved great success, they have learned how to properly build their relationships with adolescents, and have managed to help them become full-fledged adults.
Some of the highlights of this book are borrowed from my first book, How to Truly Love Your Child. But since the needs of a teenager are higher than the needs of young children, a different approach is needed.
When you combine the ideas of these books into a single whole and begin to apply them, you will be pleasantly surprised to find that to truly love your teenager is extremely interesting and also quite feasible.
Many cases from my practice are used on the pages of this book as illustrations, but my real names and circumstances have been changed to keep my clients anonymous.
Chapter 1. Transitional Age
“I can’t believe she did this,” Mrs. Batten begins the sad story of her family. “She was such a good girl, she never complained, she never created problems for us.” It seemed to me that we gave Debbie everything she needed: clothes, comfort, religious education. Why did she even want to commit suicide? How could she take these pills? Did she really want to die, or was she just trying to attract attention? I’m so confused. She became so mean and sullen. I could not talk to her, and she herself did not want to talk to me. She just wanted to sit in her room alone. And her marks in school were getting worse. ”
Mrs. Batten was sitting on a chair, her shoulders were lowered, there was no ordinary gleam in her eyes. While she was talking about her daughter’s problems, I realized that she is now as lonely and as confused as Debbie. This is a typical example of the helplessness of parents who do not know how to handle a teenager.