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How to teach children to respond to trouble in an adult way?

Unpleasant events also happen in children: they fell, lost, hurt, broke … How important it is in such situations to timely translate the child’s behavior in a positive and constructive way! It is important to understand that the reaction of children is not primarily determined by the situation itself, but by a model of behavior from adults. If adults themselves in such cases swear, get upset, and worry, the children begin to repeat after them.
Our guest is a young mother with a two-year-old baby. The child jumps on the couch, but falls and
hits. He cries, his mother tells him: “Wow, what a bad sofa! Why did you hit our Pasha? We will beat you for it!” – and the sofa knocks, inviting Pasha to this. Pasha willingly joins. Now he knows what to do when he is ill. To feel better at heart, you need to start to beat … This witty hint to the child gives the mother.

Child experiences are simply a bad habit that they have adopted from adults. Smart and funny parents can very well teach their children not to cry or get upset in trouble, but to react in an adult way: in a positive and constructive way.

When my kids only learned to walk – and fall, they also did not know everything else how to react to their falls. Indeed: he was looking at his dad, and here was the kicking – and the earth under his nose. There was one thing – it became another. And now he is looking at his parents and trying to make sense of their faces: is it a catastrophe or an adventure? And my mom and I conspired and began to accompany each fall of the children with cheerful cries of “Hurray!” Result? Solid kids “Hurray!” – and no one cried. You can check!

A bike named Anya

This is a story from Elena Davydenko, a student at the University of Practical Psychology …

How much joy the child has in his eyes when he becomes the Master of the Iron Horse! My pupil Varyushka immediately came up with the name of her two-wheeled friend – “Anya” and began to learn cycling. She wanted to learn how to ride as fast as a real racer. It turned out well with her, but her first serious fall occurred after the rain, into the mud itself. It was painful, unpleasant and unexpected: Varia looked at the bicycle, as at the friend who had deceived her, betrayed. She was ready to cry, but I got ahead of her. Instead of pitying and comforting her, I exclaimed cheerfully and joyfully: “Varyushka, this is your First Fall! Hurray! ”- And then she turned to the Bicycle:“ Anya, you stumbled, it’s not scary, let’s get up! ”- And again to Varya:“ Varyushka, let’s have a great photo shoot now! This is such an Event, it is urgent to capture it! ”

But it should be noted that Varyushka is very fond of taking pictures, begins to pose with pleasure. I begin to jokingly comment on the shooting: “Anechka”, only an attentive, strong and courageous hostess will listen! What is her name? … Who can cheerfully and joyfully tame the “obstinate horse”? Varyushka laughs, it becomes so, now in front of an impromptu camera. And the fact that a couple of minutes earlier was an unpleasant event now turns out to be bright, cheerful and unforgettable. More on the bike we did not sulk and the joy – continued!

Which hand is more convenient to break?

Actors: mother Tanya Kachalova and six-year-old son – Yura Kachalov (names and surnames are not changed). So, Jura falls from the Swedish wall in kindergarten and breaks his hand hard. Ambulance, flasher, siren, hospital, x-ray, gypsum. Mom is notified by phone. Mom rushing in tears in a taxi to the other end of the city. It revolves in my head as she herself fell from the roof of the barn at age 6, and her mother, who ran up to her, could only say one thing: “Tanya, how are you?” Breaks into the surgical department. He sees the son at the end of the corridor. He runs to him and realizes that now he too can only say one thing: “Yurochka, how are you?” Runs up. The child raises his eyes, looks at his mother and calmly says: “Mom, such happiness, can you imagine! I broke my left hand, not my right! Very convenient!” The phrase about “how so” gets stuck in my mother’s throat. “Yes, son, you are great!”
Unpleasant events also happen in children: they fell, lost, hurt, broke … How important it is in such situations to timely translate the child’s behavior in a positive and constructive way! It is important to understand that the reaction of children is not primarily determined by the situation itself, but by a model of behavior from adults. If adults themselves in such cases swear, get upset, and worry, the children begin to repeat after them.
Our guest is a young mother with a two-year-old baby. The child jumps on the couch, but falls and hits. He cries, his mother tells him: “Wow, what a bad sofa! Why did you hit our Pasha? We will beat you for it!” – and the sofa knocks, inviting Pasha to this. Pasha willingly joins. Now he knows what to do when he is ill. To feel better at heart, you need to start to beat … This witty hint to the child gives the mother.

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