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How to plan your day for a preschooler?

When the child is still small, we parents plan everything for him. We set tasks for him, suggest the steps to be taken, give instructions on how to do it right, control the process.

This process can be outlined on paper in the form of a plan. If the child has not yet reached school age, then you can draw a plan, or make a fun application so that the child understands what is required of him. Younger students partially cope with this task themselves, but to a greater extent need the help of their parents.

Why should a child instill a planning skill when everything is clear and understandable already that the day is planned in advance? He attends kindergarten or school every day. Mom leads him to preparatory courses. Dancing, gymnastics, music, hockey, football – this is an approximate mode of a child’s day. But at the same time, parents often say that the child does not do well in the morning, is late for school, and in the evening it is difficult to send him to bed on time. Difficulties also arise with organizing order, maintaining a clean workplace, and controlling emotions.

Initially, the to-do list is for parents. But, when a child sees how we make a plan of the day, he acquires a skill that he will use in the future for his needs. At the first stage, he only gets acquainted with the planning of affairs for a day, a week. Then he is involved in the process of compiling cases. The child is a full partner in the development of tasks for the day. Gradually, he learns to organize his time without the help of his parents.

For greater efficiency, the to-do list is better divided into parts – morning, lunch, evening.

A morning to-do list is best negotiated with a child in advance. Together, determine the order of actions, the lead time, in time to be in time for school. According to the requirements, create a checklist and hang it in a conspicuous place. At first, mom recalls without direct indications of the sequence of affairs in the morning. The child deletes the case, which is executed, from the list or ticks. To make the child feel the execution time, you can set a timer. For example, 8-10 minutes to charge, 2 minutes to brush your teeth, 5 minutes to check the portfolio, get dressed. Within three weeks, the child develops an independent skill in completing tasks.

The school takes from morning until noon. This time is clearly distributed using the diary. Some children often forget to fill out a diary or do not want to, because in the evening they can call a friend / girlfriend to find out their homework. In this case, reminders in the form of stickers on textbooks, an incentive system will help.

Cases for the evening are prioritized: homework, preparing a briefcase, things for tomorrow, doing housework, evening ritual. The main principle is that all cases are closed until 21.00. The action plan, deadlines are also discussed with the child. To make it easier for a child to start, it is best to start with easy tasks.

For example, after completing homework, the child needs to take away his workplace. We make the first steps:

– We decide which items remain on the table, which are sent to the drawer.

– We distribute notebooks to notebooks, books to books, pencils are sent to a glass for pencils, colored paper, cardboard – to a folder.

– Above the table we attach a photo of how the table, arranged in order.

After a couple of weeks, the child will not have to remind about cleaning on his desk. The little man developed this skill through planning.

To-do list: the child’s responsibilities at home are discussed in advance (from one to four cases per day). How long does it take to complete? When will it be done? The timeline is indicated in the to-do list: time, day of completion of this case. The child ticks – completed / failed. If completed, praise, support the excitement in completing tasks. If not fulfilled, negotiations are underway. Perhaps in the process of execution he had difficulties. We find them out, help overcome.

Proper planning is the key to success. The plan can always be changed, adjusted depending on the acquired skills of the child.

How to cope with this task more effectively? Group lessons motivate ten times more than working alone. At a children’s distance, we develop the planning skill so that the morning is sunny and cheerful, and the evening is pleasant and warm with the family. A regular class schedule, trainer feedback every day, support from colleagues are a powerful incentive to develop and keep up with other children.

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