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Slow baby: recommendations for parents

Some children do everything very slowly. Is this good or bad? The good thing is that usually such children are distinguished by thoroughness and accuracy. If he did, he did, the mosquito of the nose will not tarnish.

The bad thing is that slowness interferes with interaction with others: the mother is annoyed and curses, her peers overtake and mock, the teacher gives poor marks for being late or unfinished homework.

Some people think that slowness is an innate quality of a child, its peculiarity, and its character trait. It must be taken for granted and allow the child to do business with “his” speed. I agree with this statement: if mother calmly accepts the fact of slowness, she stops cursing at the child, and this is already good.

There are other parents – those who are not limited to the task of good relations with the child, but strive to raise a successful and socially adequate person. Then the question of swearing is not at all relevant – it goes without saying that a good relationship with the child should be. But the task of accelerating a slow child becomes paramount.

How to do it? There are many ways and approaches, see the article “Kopusha”, I like to use the “principle of simplification” the most.

1. Determine how slow your child is. Surely, in many situations – choose one, for starters – a simple one. For example, my son does his lessons very slowly. Slowly sits down at the table, gradually pulls out the diary from the portfolio, then thoughtfully flips it to the desired page, carefully selects a suitable place for the diary on the expanses of his desk … Then he begins to pull out the textbook … When the diary, textbook and notebook are open on the necessary pages , it comes to the pencil case and search for pens in it … After 15 minutes, he is ready to start doing homework.

2. Break down the situation into simple actions and explain to the child what you mean by them. Get a diary from a portfolio – i.e. open the briefcase, stick your hand in, feel for the diary, pull it out, put it on the table facing you. Take a pen and prepare to write – i.e. take the pen from the table, place it correctly in the hand, put your hand on the notebook so that the pen points to the place where you want to start writing, look at the notebook.

3. Have the child do this simple action correctly. Then ask to do it right and quickly. Train him 10-15 times, so that this action is obtained from him easily and naturally. “Train? At my command – one, two, three, take a pen!”

4. Proceed to the next simple step. If the child still cannot do something quickly, then observe what the plug is, and then … decompose the action into simpler, elementary actions. The diary is not pulled out due to half-zipped zipper on the briefcase? Learn how to zip up well.

The method at first glance seems too simple, even primitive, but do not rush to take it lightly. In these elementary actions there is a deep inner meaning.

Firstly, it becomes unprofitable for the child to do slowly.

He is faced with the fact: if I do it slowly, then I have to perform some incredibly boring tasks, the same thing, many times. And if I do it quickly, then I’m very pleased myself, and my mother will praise. Instead of thinking “I can’t, it doesn’t work out” – I see myself that “I can, it turns out and I like it.”

Secondly, the parent turns from a critic into an assistant.

Kindly, in the interests of the child, helps him learn complex, and if it does not work out, then simple, and if it does not work out, then elementary tasks. Contact with the child is improving, relations are getting better.

Thirdly, everything happens cheerfully and cheerfully! The child gets used to feeling the joy of a clear, quick task. In such an atmosphere, any slowness will simply disappear over time, as unnecessary.

Slowness is not a sentence! The child can and should be taught to act cheerfully and energetically! Speeding up?
Some children do everything very slowly. Is this good or bad? The good thing is that usually such children are distinguished by thoroughness and accuracy. If he did, he did, the mosquito of the nose will not tarnish.

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