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The ban on gadgets. How are you doing?

When Steve Jobs was still alive and led Apple, he forbade his children to work too long for the iPad. Why? The New York Times journalist Nick Bilton, during one of his interviews with Steve Jobs, asked him if his children loved the iPad. “They do not use it. We limit the time that children spend at home on new technologies, ”he answered.

The journalist met the answer to his question in stunned silence. For some reason, it seemed to him that Jobs’s house was filled with giant touch
screens, and he distributed iPads to guests instead of sweets. But everything turned out to be even close wrong.In general, most Silicon Valley technology company executives and venture capitalists limit their children to the time they spend on screens – whether it’s computers, smartphones, or tablets. In the Jobs family, there was even a ban on the use of gadgets at night and on weekends. Other “gurus” from the world of technology do the same.

This is somewhat strange. In the end, most parents advocate a different approach, allowing their children to spend days and nights on the Internet. But, it seems, the CEOs of IT giants know something that other ordinary people do not know.

Chris Anderson, a former Wired editor who is currently executive director of 3D Robotics, has introduced restrictions on the use of gadgets for his family members. He even set up the devices so that each of them could be activated no more than a couple of hours a day.

“My children accuse me and my wife of being fascists who are too concerned about technology. They say that none of their friends has such restrictions in their family, ”he says.

Anderson has five children, from 5 to 17 years old, and the restrictions apply to each of them.

“This is because I see the danger of excessive internet enthusiasm like no other. I saw what problems I myself faced, and I do not want my children to have the same problems, ”he explains.

By the “dangers” of the Internet, Anderson and his parents in common with him mean harmful content (pornography, scenes of bullying other children) and the fact that if children use gadgets too often, they will soon become dependent on them.

Some go even further. Alex Constantinople, director of OutCast Agency, says his youngest five-year-old son doesn’t use gadgets at all during the working week. Two of his other children, who are between 10 and 13 years old, can use tablets and PCs in the house for no longer than 30 minutes a day.

Evan Williams, founder of Blogger and Twitter, says their two sons also have similar restrictions. There are hundreds of paper books in their house, and every child can read them as much as they like. But with tablets and smartphones it’s becoming more difficult – they can use them no longer than an hour a day.

Studies show that children under ten years of age are particularly susceptible to new technologies, and sit down to them like drugs. So Steve Jobs was right: researchers say that children should not be allowed to use tablets for longer than 30 minutes a day, and smartphones should not be allowed longer than two hours a day. For 10-14 year old children, the use of a PC is allowed, but only for solving school tasks.

Strictly speaking, the fashion for IT bans penetrates American homes more and more often. Some parents prohibit children from using social networks for teens (e.g. Snapchat). This allows them not to worry about the fact that their children post on the Internet: after all, thoughtless posts left in childhood can harm their authors in adulthood.

Scientists say that the age at which you can remove restrictions on the use of technology is 14 years old. Although Anderson even forbids his 16-year-old children to use the “screens” in the bedroom. Anyone including the TV screen. Dick Costolo, executive director of Twitter, allows his teenage children to use gadgets only in the living room. They have no right to bring them into the bedroom.

What to do with their children?
Well, Steve Jobs, for example, had the habit of having dinner with the children and always discussing books, history, progress, even politics with them. But at the same time, none of them had the right to get an iPhone during a conversation with his father. As a result, his children grew up independent of the Internet. Are you ready for such restrictions?

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