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How a businessman created the “Farmers School” for orphans

Vyacheslav Gorelov, a large father and teacher, created the “Farmers School” for orphans. “Why do I want to start with statistics? The numbers are scary, just scary. Just think – today in Russia there are about 950 thousand orphans. Every year about 100-130 thousand of these guys appear in our country. ”

Every year, 15 thousand graduates leave the walls of orphanages. And after graduation only 10% of them join the society. No more than 7% go to universities, 70% go to vocational schools, and 20% never study at all. 85 thousand orphans do not have fixed housing. The numbers are shocking, and the situation itself is quite eerie. The problem of adaptation of graduates of orphanages confuses the whole society. At 18, they were sent from the orphanage to hang out in lyceums. The administration does not support them – no matter how adult life, spin yourself, as you want. So they “spin”: they become criminals, prostitutes, and graduates of technical schools join the ranks of the unemployed. Children from the countryside often get completely drunk. Alcoholism is at best, at worst – drug addiction, substance abuse, suicide. And here no statistics can save you when you constantly want to eat, and you need a roof over your head. No housing, no registration, no work. Who needs them? Maybe parents or society? Yes, no one! And the worst thing is that they know this very well and are even more degraded.

About the premises
There are no more idiots like me in Russia. I myself live in a village, I invested 16 million in the development of children, and not ordinary, criminals. And for our state, I remain a fool. “Why spend money on them?” I constantly hear this question in my address.

I myself am a teacher by education, was engaged in business. In 1994, he organized a city health center, was the general director. I decided to create a “School of Olympic Reserve”, to attract children to professional sports. They gave school toilets, and I made a normal gym out of it. But then the boss changed and said: “Give me money for your initiative.” But I have never given kickbacks and are not going to.

So I moved from the CEO to the position of worker. He did not give up, greedy people will be in life always and everywhere, and work must be continued. Launched teacher education, began to develop a children’s project. There are normal and “abnormal” children, as our society calls them, children with offenses, criminals. I took teachers who would work with such bully children for 4 salaries. With students participated in creative and sports competitions, took first places. I had already at that time 2,000 people. In the following years he organized campaigns for such guys. The most interesting thing is that an inveterate bully changes in 10-15 days right before our eyes. He begins to take everything seriously, to realize his mistakes, you can already rely on him. Children liked it, they wanted to go on trips more often, but state structures put a ban on it. One trip – then the bully was “closed.” Tell me, how can you re-educate a person in 10 days? This is only the beginning, one step towards correction.

about the project
He wrote the program “Change fate”. At that time I was engaged in the tourism business. Fortunately, our land allows: the village of Kravets is famous for its fish river Obva and chic nature. 12 kg of carp, pike, perch, pike perch are common – without fish you will not leave the coast. I had 6 houses for tourists, 100 steps to the river. I decided that you can connect the guys to this business: to deal with houses, to develop. And already at the age of 18, to leave not with empty pockets from the orphanage, but to try yourself in entrepreneurship. I understood that it would be difficult for them, but I myself have experience and can teach them. Orphans come to me different, there are from correctional homes, it’s more difficult. I decided that it’s possible to develop children in agriculture and animal husbandry. “Farmers School” – the project is aimed not only at agricultural training, but also at entrepreneurial activity. Look after ducks, hens and receive money.
True, the administration “with hostility” has accepted such work. How can children get 15,000 a month! “You spoiled the children with money! You are undermining the entire educational system! ” And the fact that the guys do not hang around the streets, robbing passers-by, and with their honest work and brains earn money, no one thought. Many, having studied here, start their own business and successfully advance. Someone remains here: there is housing, work, understanding, respect and a sense of usefulness. Now I am in charge of the development of new workshops: smokehouse and patty-pie. Yes, at first everyone starts cautiously at work, but then they join in and they themselves already offer something new and interesting.

About family
I constantly hear criticism addressed to me that I’m doing stupid things, hopeless children, spoiling their upbringing. I am a large father, my three and eight adoptive. One summer, he organized a camp of children, also with offenses. 114 people gathered, and at the end of the shift 8 children decided to leave in his family. Now they have grown. To be honest, I’m proud of how I raised. Real men turned out.

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