What could a 14-year-old boy 100 years ago in Russia?
In peasant families in Russia, children were very early accustomed to responsibility and systematic work: this was both the main issue of upbringing and the key to survival. Moreover, the…

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Rules for a child of 8-12 years old
This agreement is signed between children and adults with the goal of both maintaining peace and love in the family, and for the formation of useful and proper attitudes, values,…

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Spartan education
When there is a conversation about education, the famous catch phrase “Spartan education” is involuntarily recalled. What events is associated with this definition? Who needs Spartan education, and is it…

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Live with children or raise children?

Not all parents, influencing children, bring them up. To educate is to instill useful skills that transform a child into a person. To educate, you need to be in a reasonable and conscious state, but how often do we stay in this state? To be honest, most parents will answer: “No!”. When parents, that is, just young people and girls, live in their usual way, that is, without thinking, being in an unconscious state, they do not
raise children, they just live next to them and just somehow relate to them. How? Differently…

A large number of parents gave birth, because “it happened”, and now they are raising, because “where are you going to go, it still yells,” and “so that I have less trouble, I will have to educate him.” Most parents raise children so that they are less bothered in life. They do not like children, they want less trouble for themselves, they take care of themselves and this is not upbringing, this is protection from children. Continue reading

“Foal” and “Tighten”

I watched the picture: a boy of about 7-8 jumps into the pool on the heads of the passing ladies. Mom sits nearby and is very happy about this behavior of the child. First, the ladies express displeasure, barely having time to dodge the thirty-kilogram carcass. Mother is having fun. “The Onion Foal,” she explains the actions of the juvenile bully.

On the fifth or sixth jump with a “bomb”, a weighty kid still hits the target – as if with his feet in the
brain of a blond girl. The blonde went under water, but quickly surfaced and yelled at the entire pool. If you remove her obscene words, you would think that she did not say anything. I understand her emotions. Imagine a weight of 30 kilograms falling on your head. Continue reading

Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment?

Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment? Of course, it is possible, but this path is difficult, requiring experience, strength and endurance. It is definitely impossible to rely on one unconditional love here. According to observations, good parents punish the child seriously only once or twice in life, somewhere at the age of three to four years, when the child tries the parents for strength. If this battle is won, then a good life and mutual understanding are again established, only
occasionally alternating rather with symbolic punishments. Once parents use the warning “One! Two! Three!”, Once a timeout without warning, sometimes they have to deprive something for the time of childish mischief – but all these educational measures live somewhere on the periphery of the relationship between parents and children, and in the center there is another: lively and warm communication, discussion of common topics, help with studies, joint leisure, sports … Continue reading

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How to raise a successful person
When we learned that Mom was publishing a book, we decided that it was for us, her children, to write a preface about how it feels when your mother is…

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I'm not cruel, I take care of your son
A woman, 47 years old, married, lives with her husband. The main earner in the family is her. 2 years ago I bought an apartment in a mortgage, a year…

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How to love your teenager
Foreword This is a very serious book, but helping teenagers in the transitional period of their lives is also a serious and difficult task, especially in our time. In his…

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Training and education on examples and samples
Children copy adults with pleasure. By copying the behavior of adults, children master this world. Children like any physical activity, they like not only to run, but also to fall,…

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