Bravo my dear
“It’s not you who decides where we are going. Parents decide, ”the French are strict in raising their children. The authority of the elders is unshakable. The child is not…

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What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There…

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Persuasion is a waste of time
Marina, my wife and I, go to the park, and there is a stall from the church where they sell all kinds of prayed buns, etc. The tea is good…

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Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment?

Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment? Of course, it is possible, but this path is difficult, requiring experience, strength and endurance. It is definitely impossible to rely on one unconditional love here. According to observations, good parents punish the child seriously only once or twice in life, somewhere at the age of three to four years, when the child tries the parents for strength. If this battle is won, then a good life and mutual understanding are again established, only
occasionally alternating rather with symbolic punishments. Once parents use the warning “One! Two! Three!”, Once a timeout without warning, sometimes they have to deprive something for the time of childish mischief – but all these educational measures live somewhere on the periphery of the relationship between parents and children, and in the center there is another: lively and warm communication, discussion of common topics, help with studies, joint leisure, sports … Continue reading

Interruption in communication with the child: a soothing timeout

Sometimes children do not obey us, and they have to be punished. A timeout is one of the humane options for punishment; in reality, it is interruption of contact with a child for educational purposes. There are many options for a timeout, but usually, when punishing in this style, you leave the child alone for a short period of time, stop communicating with him yourself or deprive him of communication with those with whom he had fun.
Sometimes it sounds like a punishment to a child, sometimes like a help: to give him the opportunity to calm down.

It seems to many that a timeout is necessary to put the child in a corner and so that he does not even turn around! No, it is not. The option “quiet chair” for a normal child is much more understandable and Continue reading

Preschoolers: Developing Independence

I began to accustom my daughter to independent actions quite early. From primitive cooking yourself breakfast or dinner. If she said that she wanted to eat, then sometimes I answered her: “If you want, eat! Food in the refrigerator. ” When the daughter was still small, she herself went to the kitchen, took out ready-made food from the refrigerator, warmed up and ate. Of course, everything is under my supervision, but on my own. And when she became older, she began to cook herself.

– Mom, I really want fried potatoes.

“Yes, me too, daughter.” Fire us all, please.

Then she periodically ran in and asked what and how to do. Sometimes I went out into the kitchen to make the fire smaller so that the potatoes would not burn at all. And when her daughter cooked herself, Continue reading

How to raise a successful person
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