If a child tests your strength ...
The most obedient children from time to time necessarily check whether parents can - do not obey? The main type of check is a test of the parents' resistance to…

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I'm not cruel, I take care of your son
A woman, 47 years old, married, lives with her husband. The main earner in the family is her. 2 years ago I bought an apartment in a mortgage, a year…

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Children's Distance - educate a free, purposeful person
Of course, it all started with the SCP and the DYNASTY project, but it was Svetlana Satina who inspired me and Tatyana Vandysheva about the Children's Distance. Under her leadership,…

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Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment?

Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment? Of course, it is possible, but this path is difficult, requiring experience, strength and endurance. It is definitely impossible to rely on one unconditional love here. According to observations, good parents punish the child seriously only once or twice in life, somewhere at the age of three to four years, when the child tries the parents for strength. If this battle is won, then a good life and mutual understanding are again established, only
occasionally alternating rather with symbolic punishments. Once parents use the warning “One! Two! Three!”, Once a timeout without warning, sometimes they have to deprive something for the time of childish mischief – but all these educational measures live somewhere on the periphery of the relationship between parents and children, and in the center there is another: lively and warm communication, discussion of common topics, help with studies, joint leisure, sports … Continue reading

Interruption in communication with the child: a soothing timeout

Sometimes children do not obey us, and they have to be punished. A timeout is one of the humane options for punishment; in reality, it is interruption of contact with a child for educational purposes. There are many options for a timeout, but usually, when punishing in this style, you leave the child alone for a short period of time, stop communicating with him yourself or deprive him of communication with those with whom he had fun.
Sometimes it sounds like a punishment to a child, sometimes like a help: to give him the opportunity to calm down.

It seems to many that a timeout is necessary to put the child in a corner and so that he does not even turn around! No, it is not. The option “quiet chair” for a normal child is much more understandable and Continue reading

Preschoolers: Developing Independence

I began to accustom my daughter to independent actions quite early. From primitive cooking yourself breakfast or dinner. If she said that she wanted to eat, then sometimes I answered her: “If you want, eat! Food in the refrigerator. ” When the daughter was still small, she herself went to the kitchen, took out ready-made food from the refrigerator, warmed up and ate. Of course, everything is under my supervision, but on my own. And when she became older, she began to cook herself.

– Mom, I really want fried potatoes.

“Yes, me too, daughter.” Fire us all, please.

Then she periodically ran in and asked what and how to do. Sometimes I went out into the kitchen to make the fire smaller so that the potatoes would not burn at all. And when her daughter cooked herself, Continue reading

Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment?
Is it possible to raise children without resorting to punishment? Of course, it is possible, but this path is difficult, requiring experience, strength and endurance. It is definitely impossible to…

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How to educate schoolchildren
- You are a psychologist with great experience. Both older people and children of the new Russia come to your consultation. Whom do modern Moscow schools bring up? - I…

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Why and how to play role-playing games with children 3-7 years old
Preschoolers must always play role-playing and plot-role-playing games. A role-playing game is like a “recipe”, not only for teaching writing, but for teaching effective communication. Agree, if the child had…

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Educational activities for kids: successful experience
Here are the daily activities that I developed for my daughter Katya when she was about two years old. The classes turned out to be fascinating both for Katya and…

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