Live with children or raise children?
Not all parents, influencing children, bring them up. To educate is to instill useful skills that transform a child into a person. To educate, you need to be in a…

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What could a 14-year-old boy 100 years ago in Russia?
In peasant families in Russia, children were very early accustomed to responsibility and systematic work: this was both the main issue of upbringing and the key to survival. Moreover, the…

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I don’t want to punish. What could be instead of punishment?
Normal parents do not like to punish their own children. Somehow stupid: I dreamed about children, I wanted to love, but here I just do what I swear and punish.…

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If a child tests your strength …

The most obedient children from time to time necessarily check whether parents can – do not obey? The main type of check is a test of the parents’ resistance to a child’s attack, when the child suddenly stops obeying and actively insists on his desires. A child throws to parents – a challenge! If here to show the child a weakness – the child understands that parents can be replayed. And begins to use it. Continue reading

The ban on gadgets. How are you doing?

When Steve Jobs was still alive and led Apple, he forbade his children to work too long for the iPad. Why? The New York Times journalist Nick Bilton, during one of his interviews with Steve Jobs, asked him if his children loved the iPad. “They do not use it. We limit the time that children spend at home on new technologies, ”he answered.

The journalist met the answer to his question in stunned silence. For some reason, it seemed to him that Jobs’s house was filled with giant touch
screens, and he distributed iPads to guests instead of sweets. But everything turned out to be even close wrong.In general, most Silicon Valley technology company executives and venture capitalists limit their children to the time they spend on screens – whether it’s computers, smartphones, or tablets. In the Jobs family, there was even a ban on the use of gadgets at night and on weekends. Other “gurus” from the Continue reading

Let mom out of the shower

You will not like this article.
You will say that here the father is a tyrant and despot, and the girl is an unhappy victim, forced to endure the tyranny of adults. In the comments to the article, accusations are made that in such a family a girl will necessarily get neurosis, disruption, depression and grow up limp, not used to defending her rights. However, since I have the opportunity to observe this family and I definitely like the parents in this family, I inform you: now, six years after this incident, the girl Tanya has exemplary mental health. Satisfied with himself and his life, successful in all respects, a leader by nature, able to defend his borders perfectly if necessary, and at the same time a very friendly person … – we all would like suchchildren. Accordingly, your concerns that such a style of upbringing will create any problems and neuroses – these concerns turned out to be completely groundless.
Total: do not rush to swear. Thinking is better than swearing.
But what is the story? What is all the excitement about? So…
Dad, walking past the soul, heard the displeased daughter: “Well, mom !!!” (Tanya is 15 years old). He opened Continue reading

Rules of communication, or a waterfall of kindness
It often happens that we, adults, talk about good deeds, teach children to communicate with each other correctly. At the same time, children are well introduced into the conversation, they…

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Interruption in communication with the child: a soothing timeout
Sometimes children do not obey us, and they have to be punished. A timeout is one of the humane options for punishment; in reality, it is interruption of contact with…

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Smart family rituals: what brings us together and strengthens our relationship
Contact between parents and children is a joy, convenience and a guarantee of preventing conflicts and misunderstandings. How to keep it from infancy for many years? Is it possible to…

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Preschoolers: Developing Independence
I began to accustom my daughter to independent actions quite early. From primitive cooking yourself breakfast or dinner. If she said that she wanted to eat, then sometimes I answered…

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