How to prepare for parenthood
- You sometimes publicly say that now you have enough skill to evaluate a person even from a photograph. Can you just look at a person’s photo portrait to understand…

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Bravo my dear
“It’s not you who decides where we are going. Parents decide, ”the French are strict in raising their children. The authority of the elders is unshakable. The child is not…

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Parenting a girl
How to raise a girl? The question is important and not simple. In the upbringing of the girl there are two lines: the general line and the special line. The…

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I don’t want to punish. What could be instead of punishment?

Normal parents do not like to punish their own children. Somehow stupid: I dreamed about children, I wanted to love, but here I just do what I swear and punish. The question arises: the child is not ugly or is there something to fix in me? Answer: even if “the child is not ugly” (this also happens), you need to start with yourself. So, if the child is not an angel and deserves punishment regularly, what can be in the arsenal of the parent, except for
punishment?

First: you can talk with children
Children, especially when they are very upset, do not always understand the conversation in a good way, but, on the other hand, if they are only punished and not talked to, they will never understand normal conversations. No matter how angry you are at the child, no matter how unusual (suddenly!) It is for you, you need to talk with the children! Normal relations with people, relationships without screaming and cursing, children learn in their family. Story: Continue reading

Home schooling: pros and cons

From the editorial board of Psychologist
Dear colleagues! Friends and parents!
The issue of home schooling is an important and controversial one. He has many ardent supporters and as many ardent opponents. On this page we offer you the opportunity to express your opinion and get acquainted with the opinion of the other side. Write your opinion in the comments. As elsewhere on Psychology, moderation will be, so it’s better to write right away, not categorically, but constructively and with respect for a different opinion. Make the discussion reasonable! Continue reading

The ban on gadgets. How are you doing?

When Steve Jobs was still alive and led Apple, he forbade his children to work too long for the iPad. Why? The New York Times journalist Nick Bilton, during one of his interviews with Steve Jobs, asked him if his children loved the iPad. “They do not use it. We limit the time that children spend at home on new technologies, ”he answered.

The journalist met the answer to his question in stunned silence. For some reason, it seemed to him that Jobs’s house was filled with giant touch
screens, and he distributed iPads to guests instead of sweets. But everything turned out to be even close wrong.In general, most Silicon Valley technology company executives and venture capitalists limit their children to the time they spend on screens – whether it’s computers, smartphones, or tablets. In the Jobs family, there was even a ban on the use of gadgets at night and on weekends. Other “gurus” from the Continue reading

Children's Distance - educate a free, purposeful person
Of course, it all started with the SCP and the DYNASTY project, but it was Svetlana Satina who inspired me and Tatyana Vandysheva about the Children's Distance. Under her leadership,…

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What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There…

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If a child tests your strength ...
The most obedient children from time to time necessarily check whether parents can - do not obey? The main type of check is a test of the parents' resistance to…

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How to love your teenager
Foreword This is a very serious book, but helping teenagers in the transitional period of their lives is also a serious and difficult task, especially in our time. In his…

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