How to raise a successful person
When we learned that Mom was publishing a book, we decided that it was for us, her children, to write a preface about how it feels when your mother is…

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Rules for a child of 8-12 years old
This agreement is signed between children and adults with the goal of both maintaining peace and love in the family, and for the formation of useful and proper attitudes, values,…

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How to educate schoolchildren
- You are a psychologist with great experience. Both older people and children of the new Russia come to your consultation. Whom do modern Moscow schools bring up? - I…

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I don’t want to punish. What could be instead of punishment?

Normal parents do not like to punish their own children. Somehow stupid: I dreamed about children, I wanted to love, but here I just do what I swear and punish. The question arises: the child is not ugly or is there something to fix in me? Answer: even if “the child is not ugly” (this also happens), you need to start with yourself. So, if the child is not an angel and deserves punishment regularly, what can be in the arsenal of the parent, except for
punishment?

First: you can talk with children
Children, especially when they are very upset, do not always understand the conversation in a good way, but, on the other hand, if they are only punished and not talked to, they will never understand normal conversations. No matter how angry you are at the child, no matter how unusual (suddenly!) It is for you, you need to talk with the children! Normal relations with people, relationships without screaming and cursing, children learn in their family. Story: Continue reading

Home schooling: pros and cons

From the editorial board of Psychologist
Dear colleagues! Friends and parents!
The issue of home schooling is an important and controversial one. He has many ardent supporters and as many ardent opponents. On this page we offer you the opportunity to express your opinion and get acquainted with the opinion of the other side. Write your opinion in the comments. As elsewhere on Psychology, moderation will be, so it’s better to write right away, not categorically, but constructively and with respect for a different opinion. Make the discussion reasonable! Continue reading

The ban on gadgets. How are you doing?

When Steve Jobs was still alive and led Apple, he forbade his children to work too long for the iPad. Why? The New York Times journalist Nick Bilton, during one of his interviews with Steve Jobs, asked him if his children loved the iPad. “They do not use it. We limit the time that children spend at home on new technologies, ”he answered.

The journalist met the answer to his question in stunned silence. For some reason, it seemed to him that Jobs’s house was filled with giant touch
screens, and he distributed iPads to guests instead of sweets. But everything turned out to be even close wrong.In general, most Silicon Valley technology company executives and venture capitalists limit their children to the time they spend on screens – whether it’s computers, smartphones, or tablets. In the Jobs family, there was even a ban on the use of gadgets at night and on weekends. Other “gurus” from the Continue reading

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