Rules of communication, or a waterfall of kindness
It often happens that we, adults, talk about good deeds, teach children to communicate with each other correctly. At the same time, children are well introduced into the conversation, they…

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Raising a boy
Boys and girls are different initially. Since childhood, girls prefer to play with dolls, outfits and relationships, boys are more interested in cars, construct something and fight. You can, of…

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What could a 14-year-old boy 100 years ago in Russia?
In peasant families in Russia, children were very early accustomed to responsibility and systematic work: this was both the main issue of upbringing and the key to survival. Moreover, the…

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I don’t want to punish. What could be instead of punishment?

Normal parents do not like to punish their own children. Somehow stupid: I dreamed about children, I wanted to love, but here I just do what I swear and punish. The question arises: the child is not ugly or is there something to fix in me? Answer: even if “the child is not ugly” (this also happens), you need to start with yourself. So, if the child is not an angel and deserves punishment regularly, what can be in the arsenal of the parent, except for
punishment?

First: you can talk with children
Children, especially when they are very upset, do not always understand the conversation in a good way, but, on the other hand, if they are only punished and not talked to, they will never understand normal conversations. No matter how angry you are at the child, no matter how unusual (suddenly!) It is for you, you need to talk with the children! Normal relations with people, relationships without screaming and cursing, children learn in their family. Story: Continue reading

The ban on gadgets. How are you doing?

When Steve Jobs was still alive and led Apple, he forbade his children to work too long for the iPad. Why? The New York Times journalist Nick Bilton, during one of his interviews with Steve Jobs, asked him if his children loved the iPad. “They do not use it. We limit the time that children spend at home on new technologies, ”he answered.

The journalist met the answer to his question in stunned silence. For some reason, it seemed to him that Jobs’s house was filled with giant touch
screens, and he distributed iPads to guests instead of sweets. But everything turned out to be even close wrong.In general, most Silicon Valley technology company executives and venture capitalists limit their children to the time they spend on screens – whether it’s computers, smartphones, or tablets. In the Jobs family, there was even a ban on the use of gadgets at night and on weekends. Other “gurus” from the Continue reading

Training and education on examples and samples

Children copy adults with pleasure. By copying the behavior of adults, children master this world. Children like any physical activity, they like not only to run, but also to fall, they like to be offended and shy, they like to kiss and fight, they like to copy adults when they smile and when they swear. Children copy us when we smile at them: they copy our smile. Children copy us when we make a surprised smile – and we suddenly see the surprised eyes of our child. The child copies our hands and shoulders when Continue reading

Home schooling: pros and cons
From the editorial board of Psychologist Dear colleagues! Friends and parents! The issue of home schooling is an important and controversial one. He has many ardent supporters and as many…

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Smart family rituals: what brings us together and strengthens our relationship
Contact between parents and children is a joy, convenience and a guarantee of preventing conflicts and misunderstandings. How to keep it from infancy for many years? Is it possible to…

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Let mom out of the shower
You will not like this article. You will say that here the father is a tyrant and despot, and the girl is an unhappy victim, forced to endure the tyranny…

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What to do so that parental exactingness does not cause a child to protest?
The fact that parental exactingness is necessary, reasonable people understand, but many have a justifiable fear: Will the exactingness of parents cause a negative result in the long term? There…

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