How to build sensible obedience through an initiative
Friends, hello! In this article, we summarize the research conducted by us, teachers at the Escalibur Camp camps. For several years now, we have been shifts in our children's camps.…

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Interruption in communication with the child: a soothing timeout
Sometimes children do not obey us, and they have to be punished. A timeout is one of the humane options for punishment; in reality, it is interruption of contact with…

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How to teach children to respond to trouble in an adult way?
Unpleasant events also happen in children: they fell, lost, hurt, broke ... How important it is in such situations to timely translate the child’s behavior in a positive and constructive…

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He cries

The child does not want to get up in the morning

Women practice only persuasion and, to the last, avoid formulating a clear and precise requirement. Even if she dictate the text of the demand, only unhappy eyes can be seen in response, followed by a refusal: “No, I can’t say that!” Once, in the company of young mothers, I asked to play a situation when my daughter did not get up in the morning, and specifically asked to speak with her harder, demanding … Here is a recording of a conversation where one mother played her daughter and the other raised her:- How hard it is to wake up in the morning, how hard it is! Well, I’d sleep for at least 10 more minutes!
– Lena, rise!
– Well, another 5 minutes! Let’s count to five and I’ll get up.
– Rise! The handle rises, the leg rises.
– It’s so cool here … No legs, I’m already cold … I’ll hide again now, and then I will get up.
– Rise!
– Very cool. I’ll hide again and then get up. Continue reading

How to teach children to respond to trouble in an adult way?

Unpleasant events also happen in children: they fell, lost, hurt, broke … How important it is in such situations to timely translate the child’s behavior in a positive and constructive way! It is important to understand that the reaction of children is not primarily determined by the situation itself, but by a model of behavior from adults. If adults themselves in such cases swear, get upset, and worry, the children begin to repeat after them.
Our guest is a young mother with a two-year-old baby. The child jumps on the couch, but falls and
hits. He cries, his mother tells him: “Wow, what a bad sofa! Why did you hit our Pasha? We will beat you for it!” – and the sofa knocks, inviting Pasha to this. Pasha willingly joins. Now he knows what to do when he is ill. To feel better at heart, you need to start to beat … This witty hint to the child gives the mother.

Child experiences are simply a bad habit that they have adopted from adults. Smart and funny parents can very well teach their children not to cry or get upset in trouble, but to react in an adult way: in a positive and constructive way. Continue reading

Punishment warning: consider "One! Two! Three!"
When a child behaves badly, there is no task to punish him: there is a task to stop his problematic behavior (and in a good way, to attract him to…

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Punishment warning: consider "One! Two! Three!"
When a child behaves badly, there is no task to punish him: there is a task to stop his problematic behavior (and in a good way, to attract him to…

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Parenting a girl
How to raise a girl? The question is important and not simple. In the upbringing of the girl there are two lines: the general line and the special line. The…

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“Foal” and “Tighten”
I watched the picture: a boy of about 7-8 jumps into the pool on the heads of the passing ladies. Mom sits nearby and is very happy about this behavior…

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