Breaking up a relationship as a way to overcome a conflict with a child
Then and just then - a “two-step technique” from the yard of my childhood. - The situation is at an impasse! - you acknowledge and declare. - I did this…

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Children's Distance - educate a free, purposeful person
Of course, it all started with the SCP and the DYNASTY project, but it was Svetlana Satina who inspired me and Tatyana Vandysheva about the Children's Distance. Under her leadership,…

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Parenting a girl
How to raise a girl? The question is important and not simple. In the upbringing of the girl there are two lines: the general line and the special line. The…

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From the editorial

I don’t want to punish. What could be instead of punishment?

Normal parents do not like to punish their own children. Somehow stupid: I dreamed about children, I wanted to love, but here I just do what I swear and punish. The question arises: the child is not ugly or is there something to fix in me? Answer: even if “the child is not ugly” (this also happens), you need to start with yourself. So, if the child is not an angel and deserves punishment regularly, what can be in the arsenal of the parent, except for
punishment?

First: you can talk with children
Children, especially when they are very upset, do not always understand the conversation in a good way, but, on the other hand, if they are only punished and not talked to, they will never understand normal conversations. No matter how angry you are at the child, no matter how unusual (suddenly!) It is for you, you need to talk with the children! Normal relations with people, relationships without screaming and cursing, children learn in their family. Story: Continue reading

How to teach children to respond to trouble in an adult way?

Unpleasant events also happen in children: they fell, lost, hurt, broke … How important it is in such situations to timely translate the child’s behavior in a positive and constructive way! It is important to understand that the reaction of children is not primarily determined by the situation itself, but by a model of behavior from adults. If adults themselves in such cases swear, get upset, and worry, the children begin to repeat after them.
Our guest is a young mother with a two-year-old baby. The child jumps on the couch, but falls and
hits. He cries, his mother tells him: “Wow, what a bad sofa! Why did you hit our Pasha? We will beat you for it!” – and the sofa knocks, inviting Pasha to this. Pasha willingly joins. Now he knows what to do when he is ill. To feel better at heart, you need to start to beat … This witty hint to the child gives the mother.

Child experiences are simply a bad habit that they have adopted from adults. Smart and funny parents can very well teach their children not to cry or get upset in trouble, but to react in an adult way: in a positive and constructive way. Continue reading

Children’s tantrums: what to do with them?

Children sometimes throw tantrums: they fall to the floor, bang their hands and feet, destroy everything around. Where does this come from and what to do about it?

It is sometimes said that the hysteria of children is always a reaction to an adult, an answer to the fact that there is something terribly wrong in the relationship between an adult and a child. This is not entirely true, it is some exaggeration of the role of an adult.
A child is a creature not only reacting, not responding to one or another, correct or not, adult behavior. Thank God, children are very active, leading their game and policies towards adults.  Continue reading

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