What if the child does not hear me?
My middle son, Sasha, is 6 years old. He is a very smart and developed boy. He likes to spin around me, help, do something together. At the same time,…

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What could a 14-year-old boy 100 years ago in Russia?
In peasant families in Russia, children were very early accustomed to responsibility and systematic work: this was both the main issue of upbringing and the key to survival. Moreover, the…

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Punishment warning: consider "One! Two! Three!"
When a child behaves badly, there is no task to punish him: there is a task to stop his problematic behavior (and in a good way, to attract him to…

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Punishment warning: consider “One! Two! Three!”

When a child behaves badly, there is no task to punish him: there is a task to stop his problematic behavior (and in a good way, to attract him to something good, funny and useful). So, if the situation with the child is not yet completely running, then the simplest option is to warn the child that if he doesn’t stop the disgrace, he will be punished in a manner known to him. When the Continue reading

Interruption in communication with the child: a soothing timeout

Sometimes children do not obey us, and they have to be punished. A timeout is one of the humane options for punishment; in reality, it is interruption of contact with a child for educational purposes. There are many options for a timeout, but usually, when punishing in this style, you leave the child alone for a short period of time, stop communicating with him yourself or deprive him of communication with those with whom he had fun.
Sometimes it sounds like a punishment to a child, sometimes like a help: to give him the opportunity to calm down.

It seems to many that a timeout is necessary to put the child in a corner and so that he does not even turn around! No, it is not. The option “quiet chair” for a normal child is much more understandable and Continue reading

Preschoolers: Developing Independence

I began to accustom my daughter to independent actions quite early. From primitive cooking yourself breakfast or dinner. If she said that she wanted to eat, then sometimes I answered her: “If you want, eat! Food in the refrigerator. ” When the daughter was still small, she herself went to the kitchen, took out ready-made food from the refrigerator, warmed up and ate. Of course, everything is under my supervision, but on my own. And when she became older, she began to cook herself.

– Mom, I really want fried potatoes.

“Yes, me too, daughter.” Fire us all, please.

Then she periodically ran in and asked what and how to do. Sometimes I went out into the kitchen to make the fire smaller so that the potatoes would not burn at all. And when her daughter cooked herself, Continue reading

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Since my friend is doing better, I will not!
One day, my son (8 years old) returned from swimming training in a gloomy mood. I began to ask questions and found out that the whole thing was in a…

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Children's Distance - educate a free, purposeful person
Of course, it all started with the SCP and the DYNASTY project, but it was Svetlana Satina who inspired me and Tatyana Vandysheva about the Children's Distance. Under her leadership,…

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Smart family rituals: what brings us together and strengthens our relationship
Contact between parents and children is a joy, convenience and a guarantee of preventing conflicts and misunderstandings. How to keep it from infancy for many years? Is it possible to…

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Home schooling: pros and cons
From the editorial board of Psychologist Dear colleagues! Friends and parents! The issue of home schooling is an important and controversial one. He has many ardent supporters and as many…

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