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Training and education on examples and samples

Children copy adults with pleasure. By copying the behavior of adults, children master this world. Children like any physical activity, they like not only to run, but also to fall, they like to be offended and shy, they like to kiss and fight, they like to copy adults when they smile and when they swear. Children copy us when we smile at them: they copy our smile. Children copy us when we make a surprised smile – and we suddenly see the surprised eyes of our child. The child copies our hands and shoulders when we wearily splash our hands, and soon will learn to make the same tired shoulders. Children draw from us our fear and our insecurity, and when we swear vigorously at them, they memorize all the details with their inherent energy, so that somewhere also convincingly start shouting at someone else.

Parents raise their children primarily by example. Yes? – Not certainly in that way. The truth is that the behavior of parents is indeed an important model, which, as a rule, is copied by children, but children observe the behavior of not only the parents, but also everyone who surrounds them, plus on TV or through a computer, children often see patterns much more vivid. Life would be too easy, if the matter of upbringing was reduced only to ensuring that the parents behave themselves with dignity … Unfortunately, everything is more complicated, and the restrained behavior of parents is far from always infectious than wild cries and bright curved faces in cartoons .

The importance of their own personal example is usually spoken from a pedagogical point of view so that parents do not “blame” external influences and look primarily at their own behavior. Yes, it’s useful, but to say that “you can really teach someone only by example” is, of course, an exaggeration: there is no such data in science. Moreover, there is evidence that a person is studying from a variety of sources and through a variety of channels. In any family, parallel to learning on patterns, learning happens through positive and negative reinforcement (conscious and unconscious), through suggestion and through reasonable discussion …

Accordingly, it’s more accurate to say that parents need to take care not only to behave themselves, but also to win competition with other patterns attractive to the child, to attract the attention of the child and be the central figure with whom he will copy the style, manners and lifestyle.

How? Let’s think together.

If you spend more time together with children – yes, it will help. More often, what is in front of the eyes is copied.

And when you are in the company, look at the child’s eyes: does he often look at you or more at everyone else? If you are with others, then it’s time for you to develop leadership skills (I’m not joking) and learn how to behave so that the views in any company are primarily on you. They look – at the leader!

Simpler and more realistic: involve the child in the development of good habits with you. Teach yourself good posture – ask the children to follow you. When they notice that you are slouching, you have three squats. Option – you have a fine in favor of the one who caught you on the stoop. You can be sure that soon the children will begin to monitor not only your but also their posture, will walk with a straight back and squat together with you. This is fun!

Similarly, you can attract them to the development of the habit of “Remove Net”, clear speech without garbage words and other exercises of the Distance that are feasible for children.

Children copy adults with pleasure. By copying the behavior of adults, children master this world. Children like any physical activity, they like not only to run, but also to fall, they like to be offended and shy, they like to kiss and fight, they like to copy adults when they smile and when they swear. Children copy us when we smile at them: they copy our smile. Children copy us when we make a surprised smile – and we suddenly see the surprised eyes of our child. The child copies our hands and shoulders when we wearily splash our hands, and soon will learn to make the same tired shoulders. Children draw from us our fear and our insecurity, and when we swear vigorously at them, they memorize all the details with their inherent energy, so that somewhere also convincingly start shouting at someone else.

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