I don’t want to punish. What could be instead of punishment?
Normal parents do not like to punish their own children. Somehow stupid: I dreamed about children, I wanted to love, but here I just do what I swear and punish.…

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How to prepare for parenthood
- You sometimes publicly say that now you have enough skill to evaluate a person even from a photograph. Can you just look at a person’s photo portrait to understand…

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“Foal” and “Tighten”
I watched the picture: a boy of about 7-8 jumps into the pool on the heads of the passing ladies. Mom sits nearby and is very happy about this behavior…

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Can this be avoided

How to teach children to respond to trouble in an adult way?

Unpleasant events also happen in children: they fell, lost, hurt, broke … How important it is in such situations to timely translate the child’s behavior in a positive and constructive way! It is important to understand that the reaction of children is not primarily determined by the situation itself, but by a model of behavior from adults. If adults themselves in such cases swear, get upset, and worry, the children begin to repeat after them.
Our guest is a young mother with a two-year-old baby. The child jumps on the couch, but falls and
hits. He cries, his mother tells him: “Wow, what a bad sofa! Why did you hit our Pasha? We will beat you for it!” – and the sofa knocks, inviting Pasha to this. Pasha willingly joins. Now he knows what to do when he is ill. To feel better at heart, you need to start to beat … This witty hint to the child gives the mother.

Child experiences are simply a bad habit that they have adopted from adults. Smart and funny parents can very well teach their children not to cry or get upset in trouble, but to react in an adult way: in a positive and constructive way. Continue reading

Children’s tantrums: what to do with them?

Children sometimes throw tantrums: they fall to the floor, bang their hands and feet, destroy everything around. Where does this come from and what to do about it?

It is sometimes said that the hysteria of children is always a reaction to an adult, an answer to the fact that there is something terribly wrong in the relationship between an adult and a child. This is not entirely true, it is some exaggeration of the role of an adult.
A child is a creature not only reacting, not responding to one or another, correct or not, adult behavior. Thank God, children are very active, leading their game and policies towards adults.  Continue reading

Home schooling: pros and cons

From the editorial board of Psychologist
Dear colleagues! Friends and parents!
The issue of home schooling is an important and controversial one. He has many ardent supporters and as many ardent opponents. On this page we offer you the opportunity to express your opinion and get acquainted with the opinion of the other side. Write your opinion in the comments. As elsewhere on Psychology, moderation will be, so it’s better to write right away, not categorically, but constructively and with respect for a different opinion. Make the discussion reasonable! Continue reading

My kids on Forbes lists
Esther Wojicki (Woj) - a famous American teacher, deputy chairman of the Creative Commons advisory board, worked as a Google education consultant, and has been teaching journalism at a high…

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Slow baby: recommendations for parents
Some children do everything very slowly. Is this good or bad? The good thing is that usually such children are distinguished by thoroughness and accuracy. If he did, he did,…

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How to prepare for parenthood
- You sometimes publicly say that now you have enough skill to evaluate a person even from a photograph. Can you just look at a person’s photo portrait to understand…

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Let mom out of the shower
You will not like this article. You will say that here the father is a tyrant and despot, and the girl is an unhappy victim, forced to endure the tyranny…

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