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Children’s Distance – educate a free, purposeful person

Of course, it all started with the SCP and the DYNASTY project, but it was Svetlana Satina who inspired me and Tatyana Vandysheva about the Children’s Distance. Under her leadership, we decided to develop a scenario for the child’s personal development and set a goal – with the help of the Distance, to educate children in such habits as organization, leadership, sunshine – and many, many others.
Moms about the results of Children’s Distance
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But as? They decided at first to check everything on their children. For some reason, immediately it turned out. Soon, more interested persons were added to our experimental group, things went! Today we already have two groups of 8 people, age – from 6 to 14 years.
About the results of the Children’s Distance
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What are our top priorities for ourselves and our children? Do not believe it: our children learn to wake up and go to bed on time, learn to monitor their speech, prescribe a plan of the day, set goals, organize themselves.
These are such small tasks, right?
Children learn this themselves. Voluntarily. With enthusiasm and desire. We ourselves do not all understand how this turns out, but so far everything is working.
Child motivation system
How did we become interested in our children’s distance? Firstly, we have long infected them with our own example. Secondly, we created our own group in Telegram for them, and for them it’s cool. They, as adults, write plans and fill out checklists. Previously, they just fussed, and we scolded them for it. And now they tell each other about their successes and give each other feedback. This is even more interesting to them, and we admire them!
They boast about their successes, and this is their task! They support each other – and get points for that too! They learn responsiveness – and they quickly start to like it!
From my own experience
In the first lesson, the children were told what distance is, what format we use for communication. We took two exercises for practicing – Royal Posture and Remove Netki. From this day, the daughter tried on the status of a small student. She had a case for which she was responsible not only to herself and to her mother, but also to her new friends. January 26 first wrote her plan of the day. In the evening, she noted with an asterisk the performance of affairs.

For three weeks I kept regular records of each day of Children’s Distance, compared with what was before. I want to share the changes that are happening with my daughter.

In the morning, rise at 7.00 – five out of seven days. A stable schedule is developed to wake up at the same time without whims. Does charging with me 4/7 days. Smiles and reminds me to smile. The sun is a separate issue. Our sun often hid behind a cloud during the day, and stubbornly refused to peer out. Now we have a checklist, where at the end of the day we give a mark for a smile. There are much more smiles. And today I was pleasantly surprised when she got up in the morning and said that it was time to do exercises. A new habit replaces the old one and it pleases. Keeps track of netka. If he speaks them, he crouches three times. Previously, she refused to squat, justifying this by the fact that she does not play this game. Now I’ve connected a class, crouches, makes others crouch. It has become much more active. School subjects are also pulling up …

It all sounds like magic. A distance changes behavior, communication methods, habits … Children are getting smarter!
What other parents write about the results.

Life has changed so dramatically for the better. Nika likes it, but I see the first results of our work. The child knows how to start his morning, monitors his speech, gradually disciplines himself and does all this with pleasure. And the most interesting thing is that she does this not because her mother said, but because she works in a great team and wants to be better than yesterday. The results are staggering … If the result is sustainable, the children get involved and the parents continue to work, then the Dynasty project will really become a reality.
Of course, it all started with the SCP and the DYNASTY project, but it was Svetlana Satina who inspired me and Tatyana Vandysheva about the Children’s Distance. Under her leadership, we decided to develop a scenario for the child’s personal development and set a goal – with the help of the Distance, to educate children in such habits as organization, leadership, sunshine – and many, many others.
Moms about the results of Children’s Distance
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